The Feminine Lifestyle Blog

June 5, 2019--On your travels, be open to meeting yourself. I think, sometimes, in the rush of life we fail to notice who we are or even who we are becoming. Today, I was reminded of some things... I am on a cruise this week: Nassau was amazing😍  The sun and breeze were just right, the blue-green water was therapeutic and totally healed my soul, and the people (my people!) are friendly and welcoming and work very hard to make the island feel like home.  This cruise has been...an experience. Last night while relaxing on a bench in the Promenade, gazing at the sea of people I met a 26-year old woman from India who is experiencing issues in her arranged engagement...the guy's family seems to be backing out of the deal and the guy is too, despite them being in love. This afternoon, while frolicking in the beautiful ocean, I met an older woman who is going through a divorce. She just wants out and hopes 2019 is her year to settle things and move ...

Re: Can you hold a man's interest without sex? I recently came across a post where a woman asked how she could keep a  man’s full attention in dating without sex? The group members' responses to the asker were okay but I know I can do better. You see, God precisely trained me for this role. And it may be why he has allowed me to stay single for so long! I have things to teach and things to share so I am going to get it out before my last name changes. Look, I am not on here to teach you how to get a husband. How can I mentor you on something I don’t yet have? But I am here to mentor you on or maybe even model for you how to be….single and Godly. Single and holy. Single and feminine despite life’s troubles and woes. If you don’t want to be, then I don’t think you will be single all your life. ‘But whether single or married we must continually bring honor and glory  to the Lord in all that we say, believe and do. I know it’s hard dating without sex but it’s a must ...

Way earlier than I am sure she ever thought, my mom died. She was 46. I was 13. And there was so much I did not yet know. Thankfully, I’d had a few periods, so my mom had had that conversation with me but how about the other stuff: sex? my first date? Relationships? self-care?  family care? …the list goes on.  My mom was a very nurturing mom and homemaker, so she taught by example, more than anything. But there were still many conversations left to be had. My Mother and me, circa 1983 My dad did his best, but his masculine energy (and inexperience with raising a teenage daughter alone) was way too high for him to be of any help in the areas I needed him to be. I think single parents can raise healthy children just fine, but gaps in the child’s learning are to be expected. Which is fine, since there is a thing children can do for themselves as adults called “re-parenting”. Anyway, once my mom was gone, there was only silence. And the teaching that she was maybe going to ...

Pretty soon holiday music will be blasting from mall speakers and someone somewhere in North Dakota will be enjoying some "chestnuts roasting on an open fire". People in Florida will still be wearing flip flops and shorts but we will all be in the Holiday Spirit nonetheless. It's the norm. Before saying goodbye to 2018 and hello to a whole lotta holiday debt may I challenge you to find ways to readjust yourself and your life so that you are transforming into a better version of YOUrself as opposed to conforming to the version of those around you? There is still time: time in the year, time in your day, time in your life. There is still time to live your best life. When me and my children left the States and relocated to Paris, everyone around me was in an uproar. I was shaking up a norm and they did not like it. There was no malicious intent in their concern, I know. But if I had given in to their protests, I would have stifled my growth and blanded my story. You see,...

Am I an expert on forgiveness? Nope Is that fact gonna stop me from sharing my experiences with you? No way! I understand how hard it can be to forgive. I understand that forgiving others and moving on past the hurt and past the tragedy can make you feel weak, victimized and further taken advantage of. I know many, many, many people have written about this topic so there is nothing new to say about it. So I will not try to convince you to forgive. I will just share a bit of my story instead: Back in  2017, on another blog platform,  I shared a blog post  about my issues with a group I had joined. I shared the blog post because I felt that staying silent would mislead other women. I wanted them to read my truth and then make their own informed decisions. But many women still had questions and my inbox overflowed with their inquiries. It was overwhelming and I went on a serious hiatus from Facebook. I also unfriended and blocked several people who I’d befrien...

Do not let your children live in ignorance of your sacrifices…. “I will literally go hungry so that you can eat”  Fun Fact about pelican symbolism below*: I recently said this to my children because I had become tired of the teenage angst moments: you know, the sighing, eye rolling, foot-stomping, under the breath moments that typically come with teen years ( I wrote typically because teen angst may come earlier or not at all; it is not to be expected or feared, but rightly confronted if it does appear). I had just told my children to eject a movie they’d set their sights on watching. It was R-rated and totally inappropriate, so they were asked to eject it ( I didn’t buy the movie and it’s not my house, but it was my place to prevent them from watching it).   They huffed, puffed, whined “whyyyy??” and upon ejecting, I heard some mumbling under the breath. I was hurt. Why? Because I would do anything for my children: rescue them from a burning building, s...

Dear Feminine Woman, You must teach your family to be compassionate. Compassionless children, compassionless husbands, compassionless family members are the number one cause of stress, tension, anxiety and depression in women . This is not a scientific fact, but I would put money on it. A husband who lacks compassion lacks the ability to truly connect with his wife. Children who lack compassion cannot share, cannot empathize, and cannot relate to anyone’s needs but their own Family members who lack compassion will convince you to prioritize their desires over yours and their needs over your own often. You will be made to feel guilty (and possibly even alienated) if you do not. Compassion is defined as “sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it”. Synonyms include kindness, mercy, humanity, kindheartedness, sensitivity, understanding, benevolence. I want a husband who alleviates my stress. I want a husband who notices my stress! And...