The Feminine Lifestyle Blog

Today after running an errand, I returned to my father's house and found a dead baby bird in his driveway. It didn't look run over, just still and very much dead. Maybe a cat got to it? Or it froze to death in the cold? Maybe its mother neglected it?   Whatever happened, this little baby bird's flight has been permanently suspended and that's a shame.  Don't let others interrupt your flight. You are going somewhere amazing and great; you have plans and ideas. Don't let others interrupt your flight. You know that where you are is not where you stay; don't let others interrupt your flight. You refuse to get distracted and thereby settle for less: don't let others interrupt your flight, How do "others" interrupt out flight and what exactly is this flight? The flight is the place where your destiny lives. It is the journey that leads you to become the woman you were ALWAYS meant to be. Family and friends say you've changed, but ...

Recently me and a friend were conversing and I discovered that our conversations had taken a negative turn. Instead of sharing fun plans, swapping exciting stories and praise reports we were stuck in a conversational rut; griping about the same things we always do but in a negative manner. After our hour-long vent session,  I got off the phone and headed to my car…and noticed my rear tire was almost flat (seemingly out of the blue!). Without a word, I took a breath, silently apologized, and then gave thanks. I had attracted this event (Law of Attraction was in full effect). Today as I was taking my morning walk I thought about the previous day’s conversation with my friend. I love her dearly and would not trade our friendship for the world but as women we have wounds and when we converse we often share our challenges and struggles because we find solace in each other. But there is a fine line between being friends and being wound buddies. Wound buddies are those we connect w...

August 20, 2017 6:10 PM By the time a woman reaches middle age she has lived a thousand lives…and probably died a thousand deaths. This sentiment came to mind the other day after I’d finished reading Amy Tan’s Valley of Amazement , a not so quick read I’d come across in this apartment I’m renting. Business is slow and wifi is inconsistent so I had plenty of time to read a novel. But Valley of Amazement is not just a novel, it is a fascinating tale of a mother and a daughter on separate but equal journeys to love, happiness, fulfillment, each other, and self. After I finished reading I couldn’t help but think of my own life and all the “women” I’ve been over the years. When I was 13, I was the young woman who lost her mother to heart disease. When I was 18, I was the woman who got pregnant and had to drop out of college. 8 years later I was the woman who beat the odds and completed graduate school with two children…and so on and so on the story goes. Every year or fe...

“To give oneself over to love and marriage is to say yes to death” ~Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul You cannot stay 100% you and be in a love relationship; there are parts of you that must die for the union to live. The sooner we understand and accept these points, the better our relationships will be. Besides marriage being a merger of two hearts, it is also a merger of two wills, two personalities, two identities and two Beings. That is a lot! Attempting to coexist as a couple with all those extra things would make anyone claustrophobic. But if I prune my stuff, and my husband prunes his stuff and then as we draw closer other things just fall away, we are both in a comfortable space to give, take and receive as needed. Another element of this is like attracts like. So, in many ways I have attracted a mate who is much like me. If I am selfish, stubborn, prone to jealousy, independent, and impulsive, I can expect these traits to show up in my mate as well. I once had an...

 I don’t know what masculine men rate you as. You know, they all have this scale in their mind (1-10) and women fall at the higher or lower end of that scale depending upon several factors. Please make it your business to find out what masculine men in your culture (or the culture you desire to marry into) desire. And no, it’s not what American media tell us they desire: TV and media are only about consumerism…real men like certain things and you don’t have to buy fake boobs or get your cellulite burned off to please them. You don't need to be a skinny-minny, I certainly am not! But it is important that our bodies are healthy, attractive and proportionate.  For now, here’s some information to tide you over and get you started on looking and sounding your best to attract your BEST mate: 1. Check that BMI: the closer you are to the ideal, the better. If you fall into the overweight category of your BMI, it’s time to get serious about weight loss. If you’re overweight, I...

Dear Dreamer, I once heard a pastor say, “In life, you will experience more kindness among strangers than family”. He’s right, I thought. But why is that? Maybe we have tired our families out with our failures (failed attempts, failed marriages, failed dreams). Maybe our families are pessimists. Maybe our families dislike us. Maybe our families are jealous of us. Maybe our families are tired of believing in us. Who is “us” you may ask? Dreamers: those people who set out to conquer their city, country, town, industry, or world because they have a dream. A dream to be the first, the greatest, the best or the brightest. And maybe they make it. Or maybe they don’t. But what dreamers quickly find is that they experience more kindness amongst strangers than family. Family may refuse to give a dime to your endeavors, strangers will give millions. Family may demand that you stop dreaming and just live a regular life, strangers insist you keep the dream alive and refuse to settle. ...

How should a feminine wife serve and treat her husband?  I love this question because it reminds us just how important feminine nurturing is to our masculine man. Only a wife can nurture a man to his best self.  In marriage I will nurture my husband to greatness by following his lead, respecting him and our family wealth, offering him peace, maintaining a beautiful, musical and relaxing home, supporting his goals, having enthusiastic sex daily, giving him massages and special treatment, listening to him, cooking him healthy meals, and serving him in public and private. Not really sure how to serve/treat your man? Look below: 1. Follow his directions. It makes a man feel good when his woman actually listens to him and obeys what he says. Submission is power! 2. Respect him. At all times. And refuse to allow others to disrespect him. 3. Offer him peace. This begins with not talking his head off about trivial things 4. Keep your home clean, pleasant-smelling, and org...