Femininity: So What?

Feminine women have more fun. And they're more protected and provided for than masculine women...or women who run from or ignore their Femininity.

Feminine women have less worries, less struggles, and less panic attacks too! They know that trying to do it all and have it all, all by themselves is just NOT an option. Feminine women know the power of relationships. And they know the power of asking for help. They are able to give AND receive.

 If you've read my blog posts before you'll understand that I see Femininity as more than just...

1. Pretty hair, beautiful makeup and nice clothes
2. Getting men to do what you want, when you want
3. Pretty dresses and high heels
4. Acting girly and speaking softly
5. Batting your eye lashes and smiling sweetly

Femininity is a way of life. It's how you treat people and how they respond to you. It is humble submission and obedience to the authority figures God has placed in our lives (the main person: husband).
Femininity is going with the flow, choosing silence over snappiness or arguing loudly. Femininity is beauty: from the inside out. It's joy. It's peace. It's reflectiveness.  It's  a nice, hot bubble bath and romantic comedies. It's moonlit walks on the beach. It's laughter. Its calm. It's silence and silent  contemplation. It's girly giddiness. It's  sexy and mature. Femininity chooses sanity over stress, helpfulness over haughtiness and confidence over control.
Femininity is woman. Femininity is you.
We live in a confused culture where people think Femininity can be bought and "tried on". Femininity can no more be bought than class can. You can't buy class. You can't buy Femininity.
Femininity is wisdom. It is knowing the differences between keeping house and playing house. Being wifey vs. Being a wife. Femininity is generosity, support, nurturing, attention to detail and love.
Femininity is worth studying and learning about because as American women, we live in a highly masculine society where EVERYBODY is expected to man up, be blunt, not cry, hustle hard and take charge.
I won't do it. And neither should you.

What's the point in being a feminine woman?
Women are sooo stressed out these days: overworked, underpaid, underappreciated, overwhelmed, etc. And we don't have to be. This world likes to shame us when we ask for help, or when we admit that "I can't handle it all by myself".
You don't have to be Wonder Woman. You don't have to be Super Mom. I am learning that the secret to preserving my energy is being stingy with it. Not everyone gets to hear my voice. Or feel my touch. Or receive my smile. Or be allowed into my space. And I am not giving any man my body unless said man is my husband.

It is hard-no wait, impossible-it is impossible to remain a feminine woman in feminine energy when you are:

1. Working too much and too often
2. Not creating boundaries in your relationships
3. Sharing your body with a man who is not your husband
4. Refusing help/Not asking for help
5. Allowing your children and/or friends to occupy all of your free time
6. Loaning out your free time
7. Talking all day
8. Skipping rest

But there is a way for us to win in life AND be feminine too! I will be hosting a webinar, Transformational Femininity , on June 30th that will outline the methods to renewing your mindset, mouth, relationships and lives to get the MOST out of this amazing life God has given us!