The Feminine Lifestyle Blog

Did you know...pets help us with connectedness? If you have been single for some time, being connected to something or someone can be a foreign feeling. Some are even unable to connect to their children because of intense feelings of loneliness. Women need men and men need women, this is the way God intended it. But if we exist in disconnectedness we will fail to attract our healthy other half. No, this is not a plea to buy a pet or date to feel un-lonely, but this IS a plea to take a closer look at your life to ensure connectedness becomes your first language...your native tongue. So practice it daily...give hugs, play with a pet, smile at others, hold your child's hand, say hello to strangers, make phone calls! So when that healthy mate does come along you are affectionate and happy and open to connecting with him !

We will not meet our husband sitting in the house all night or on the job site all day. We must go out, get out and be out to be seen and adored. And also because being out and about is fun. Grocery shop during peak hours (during lunch/after work), attend a House Party, Grab a friend (or friends) and head out to the local Farmer’s Market, visit a new church this Sunday, attend a salsa class, hit up Happy Hour… challenge yourself to try a new place each week! In dating for marriage , we must get serious about mingling with other people: men, women, married, unmarried, our ethnicity, other ethnicities, our religion, other religions. These people know other people and those people may be single! The Feminine Woman blog states, “It’s only when we care enough to connect, when we truly no longer want to be separate and alone, that we solve our own singledom.”  Do you really want to be connected with a man? A good man? Your husband? Then we must first begin caring about being connecte...

Give Masculine Respect to ALL men, not just the handsome ones, the rich ones, or those older than you. Young men (i.e. sons, grandsons, brothers, nephews, cousins, male students, etc) deserve masculine respect too. Hitting, yelling, humiliating, name calling, laughing at him, scolding him publicly are emasculating and should not be the ways a Feminine Woman deals with a Masculine Man or Young Man. If he takes it from you, he will take it from every woman (because you would have normalized this behavior). And we all know how positively sad and embarrassing it is to see a man emasculated by his woman. Boundaries and discipline are necessary, emasculation is not. Know the difference and commit to treating the young man in your life like the King you hope he will one day become. If you are a single mother who is Dating for Marriage , it is imperative to only consider and date men who have the attributes and characteristics you hope for your own son to one day have (i.e. If the gu...

Me in June 2016 Me in June 2017 By now we know that Feminine Grace is of the utmost importance. It is hard to talk about femininity without addressing weight. The story of my feminine journey is the story of my weightloss journey...or maybe it's the other way around. Either way, it is a bit impossible to speak of one without the other. Four years ago, I was fat, black and uncomfortable. Today I am still black, but I'm slimmer and waaaaaay more comfortable ( the hot flashes and rubbing thighs left about 20 lbs ago). Our health is so important. We are the head nurturers of our families so we cannot be sick and diseased and whatnot. I know, I know...an overweight body doesn't equal diseased body anymore than a "skinny" body equals healthy body but  carrying excess fat in our bodies is a real concern and must be addressed. You should want to look good, live long and LIVE well. There is no need to carry around excess weight on your bo...

Men reserve their best treatment for their wives. Even if a woman is not "marriage-minded", she will recoil at the thought that she is not getting a man's "best treatment". It is better to be single and unavailable than to date for months and years on end,  and be used for sex Girlfriends, please beware: Boyfriends will "interview" you FOR YEARS and you will be no closer to a ring than the next woman he meets and dates. You should be dating too, and not just him! Your thought process when dating for marriage should be the following:  " I am a wife who dates for marriage. I already belong to my husband. Whoever I date in the meantime is simply interviewing for his spot. So, I will conduct myself as a woman who already belongs to a man. Because I do! I am my husband's wife. Until I choose him, I am still my husband's wife." Dating for marriage and without sex is hard for many, especially those women who think that sex is all ...