The Feminine Lifestyle Blog

“To give oneself over to love and marriage is to say yes to death” ~Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul You cannot stay 100% you and be in a love relationship; there are parts of you that must die for the union to live. The sooner we understand and accept these points, the better our relationships will be. Besides marriage being a merger of two hearts, it is also a merger of two wills, two personalities, two identities and two Beings. That is a lot! Attempting to coexist as a couple with all those extra things would make anyone claustrophobic. But if I prune my stuff, and my husband prunes his stuff and then as we draw closer other things just fall away, we are both in a comfortable space to give, take and receive as needed. Another element of this is like attracts like. So, in many ways I have attracted a mate who is much like me. If I am selfish, stubborn, prone to jealousy, independent, and impulsive, I can expect these traits to show up in my mate as well. I once had an...

 I don’t know what masculine men rate you as. You know, they all have this scale in their mind (1-10) and women fall at the higher or lower end of that scale depending upon several factors. Please make it your business to find out what masculine men in your culture (or the culture you desire to marry into) desire. And no, it’s not what American media tell us they desire: TV and media are only about consumerism…real men like certain things and you don’t have to buy fake boobs or get your cellulite burned off to please them. You don't need to be a skinny-minny, I certainly am not! But it is important that our bodies are healthy, attractive and proportionate.  For now, here’s some information to tide you over and get you started on looking and sounding your best to attract your BEST mate: 1. Check that BMI: the closer you are to the ideal, the better. If you fall into the overweight category of your BMI, it’s time to get serious about weight loss. If you’re overweight, I...

Dear Dreamer, I once heard a pastor say, “In life, you will experience more kindness among strangers than family”. He’s right, I thought. But why is that? Maybe we have tired our families out with our failures (failed attempts, failed marriages, failed dreams). Maybe our families are pessimists. Maybe our families dislike us. Maybe our families are jealous of us. Maybe our families are tired of believing in us. Who is “us” you may ask? Dreamers: those people who set out to conquer their city, country, town, industry, or world because they have a dream. A dream to be the first, the greatest, the best or the brightest. And maybe they make it. Or maybe they don’t. But what dreamers quickly find is that they experience more kindness amongst strangers than family. Family may refuse to give a dime to your endeavors, strangers will give millions. Family may demand that you stop dreaming and just live a regular life, strangers insist you keep the dream alive and refuse to settle. ...

How should a feminine wife serve and treat her husband?  I love this question because it reminds us just how important feminine nurturing is to our masculine man. Only a wife can nurture a man to his best self.  In marriage I will nurture my husband to greatness by following his lead, respecting him and our family wealth, offering him peace, maintaining a beautiful, musical and relaxing home, supporting his goals, having enthusiastic sex daily, giving him massages and special treatment, listening to him, cooking him healthy meals, and serving him in public and private. Not really sure how to serve/treat your man? Look below: 1. Follow his directions. It makes a man feel good when his woman actually listens to him and obeys what he says. Submission is power! 2. Respect him. At all times. And refuse to allow others to disrespect him. 3. Offer him peace. This begins with not talking his head off about trivial things 4. Keep your home clean, pleasant-smelling, and org...

"The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"-- William Ross Wallace  If you didn't know, my first book EVER, “ My Little Black eBook: 200+ Ways To Be Feminine ” is now live and available for purchase in the Kindle Store! In "My Little Black eBook: 200+ Ways To Be Feminine", I describe the 12 tenets of feminine nurturing. While you will need to purchase the book to see what the 12 tenets of feminine nurturing are, I will tell you that feminine nurturing is the end all and be all to our relationships with masculine men. The survival of a woman's love relationship with a masculine man (be it husband, fiance, brother or son) depends on how well that woman is able to nurture him. Buy your eBook here. Men who complain about  their "mean" ex-wives, "nagging" mothers, or "uptight" sisters do not really hate these women; these men dislike that the women in their lives lack the skills and compassion to nurture them. Whateve...

Did you know...pets help us with connectedness? If you have been single for some time, being connected to something or someone can be a foreign feeling. Some are even unable to connect to their children because of intense feelings of loneliness. Women need men and men need women, this is the way God intended it. But if we exist in disconnectedness we will fail to attract our healthy other half. No, this is not a plea to buy a pet or date to feel un-lonely, but this IS a plea to take a closer look at your life to ensure connectedness becomes your first language...your native tongue. So practice it daily...give hugs, play with a pet, smile at others, hold your child's hand, say hello to strangers, make phone calls! So when that healthy mate does come along you are affectionate and happy and open to connecting with him !

We will not meet our husband sitting in the house all night or on the job site all day. We must go out, get out and be out to be seen and adored. And also because being out and about is fun. Grocery shop during peak hours (during lunch/after work), attend a House Party, Grab a friend (or friends) and head out to the local Farmer’s Market, visit a new church this Sunday, attend a salsa class, hit up Happy Hour… challenge yourself to try a new place each week! In dating for marriage , we must get serious about mingling with other people: men, women, married, unmarried, our ethnicity, other ethnicities, our religion, other religions. These people know other people and those people may be single! The Feminine Woman blog states, “It’s only when we care enough to connect, when we truly no longer want to be separate and alone, that we solve our own singledom.”  Do you really want to be connected with a man? A good man? Your husband? Then we must first begin caring about being connecte...