“To give oneself over to love and marriage is to say yes to death” ~Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul You cannot stay 100% you and be in a love relationship; there are parts of you that must die for the union to live. The sooner we understand and accept these points, the better our relationships will be. Besides marriage being a merger of two hearts, it is also a merger of two wills, two personalities, two identities and two Beings. That is a lot! Attempting to coexist as a couple with all those extra things would make anyone claustrophobic. But if I prune my stuff, and my husband prunes his stuff and then as we draw closer other things just fall away, we are both in a comfortable space to give, take and receive as needed. Another element of this is like attracts like. So, in many ways I have attracted a mate who is much like me. If I am selfish, stubborn, prone to jealousy, independent, and impulsive, I can expect these traits to show up in my mate as well. I once had an...
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